tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post115953049563904267..comments2023-11-02T06:56:57.999-04:00Comments on Saurly Yours: The Foster BabySaur♥Krauthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01160101729455178399noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-1159733191396800742006-10-01T16:06:00.000-04:002006-10-01T16:06:00.000-04:00It`s all so sad isn`t it. babies and kids getting ...It`s all so sad isn`t it. babies and kids getting tossed around and back and forth and the damage that it must cause in their lives.<BR/>I agree, there are far too many parents that should never have the privelege of raising a child. It`s sick.<BR/>And Bravo for Gabe! He sounds like he was a nice man.<BR/><BR/>tea<BR/>xoTeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07198693392569881087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-1159614058156855062006-09-30T07:00:00.000-04:002006-09-30T07:00:00.000-04:00I find that lots of people who say "There are so m...I find that lots of people who say "There are so many children right here who need homes" are people who have never tried to adopt. Children in the foster parent program are usually NOT available for adoption, and the ones who are, are special needs. Usually not because of handicap or minority status. The usual "special need" is that they are teenagers, or they come in sibling groups of three, four, or more who must be kept together.<BR/><BR/>I tried adopting domestically. There are lots of roadblocks. Lots. There are private adoptions, but very few, and my husband and I couldn't compete in that limited arena. And the real reason why so few US babies are up for adoption? Abortion contributes, but the biggest reason is that mothers in the USA generally do not give babies up for adoption willingly. The cultural taboo against unwed motherhood has dropped away. And parents can't force a daughter to give up a baby like they once did. I'm not complaining; this is a GOOD change. <BR/><BR/>I could write reams on this, but its been done. My husband and I did not adopt internationally because it was "fashionable". We did it because it was the only avenue available for us.Miss Cellaniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16056319889765739429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-1159575380164113872006-09-29T20:16:00.000-04:002006-09-29T20:16:00.000-04:00Tottally agree.Tottally agree.Dapoppinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11170185334349270932noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-1159548635907220972006-09-29T12:50:00.000-04:002006-09-29T12:50:00.000-04:00I was a foster mom on 2 separate occassions. (5 mo...I was a foster mom on 2 separate occassions. (5 months) The first time, the twin 2 year-olds were returned to the parents who hadn't wanted them before, and shortly after, they got a divorce. Who knows what happened<BR/><BR/>The 2nd time (6 months) was a 6 year-old who was taken from her parents because of neglect. They gave her back to her grandmother, who immediately gave her back to the parents. <BR/><BR/>It doesn't always workAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-1159541399990234402006-09-29T10:49:00.000-04:002006-09-29T10:49:00.000-04:00I know what it is like being super busy these days...I know what it is like being super busy these days. Today, is a LONG awaited day off.<BR/><BR/>Being someone who works in an environment where children are placed in foster care (I represent the parents), there are no easy answers. Moreover, I have seen families from every ethnic group available in this business.<BR/><BR/>Hope you have some time to rest this week.BarbaraFromCaliforniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16154135502964236043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-1159538142574712182006-09-29T09:55:00.000-04:002006-09-29T09:55:00.000-04:00right on Saur. I agree with you, I know 2 familie...right on Saur. I agree with you, I know 2 families that have gone overseas to adopt. The thought that abortion isn't the primary cause for the lack of available kids here is insane. I have a cousin that keeps foster kids, temporarily, they are usually older and troubled. She has ended up adopting and raising 3 of them as well as continuing to take in other foster kids. It is sad. When people treat kids like some do it causes me not be be dead againt abortion. If 2 people are so fucking stupid to have sex without taking every precaution and they end up breeding and are so damn selfish and their lives are so worthless they would have an abortion it probably is better for the kid. Now I'm not saying all people that have abortions are worthless people, there are absolutely 1 or2% that were raped or had to make a life or death decision for the mother. It sure is hard for me to figure why any woman would ever sleep with a man without using every form of contriception available, those women have zero respect for their bodies, not only might they end up bred but they risk getting the funk too.<BR/>LI,<BR/>If abortion isnt used for birth control what is it a party trick? And why don't black folks use contraception? Hmmmm that would be the only reason there are black babies available if your theory is correct. Black folks don't adopt?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-1159537353575442642006-09-29T09:42:00.000-04:002006-09-29T09:42:00.000-04:00Lazy Iguana, actually, this is an area that I'm hi...<B>Lazy Iguana,</B> actually, this is an area that I'm highly familiar with. Please read the exerpt below (it's from the full article <A HREF="http://www.capmag.com/article.asp?ID=4153" REL="nofollow">here</A>.<BR/><BR/>For decades, the National Association of Black Social Workers (NABSW) and others called transracial adoptions "cultural genocide." In 1992, the NABSW issued a paper condemning "transracial" black-white adoptions between Americans, warning against "transculturation . . . when one dominant culture overpowers and forces another culture to accept a foreign form of existence," and stated that "children need to be with those who are most familiar with their culture, heritage and family system." <BR/><BR/>Responding to the opposition of organizations like the NABSW, adoption agencies pulled back. After all, who could understand the dramatically different "culture" of blacks better than black social workers?<BR/><BR/>Finally, in 1994 -- concerned about the alarming number of black children waiting for adoption -- Congress passed the Multiethnic Placement Act, which prohibits delay or denial of any adoption due to the race, color or national origin of the child or adoptive parents. Still, after the Act, the number of transracial adoptions failed to significantly increase. Why?<BR/><BR/>According to the National Adoption Center, government still allows agencies to use variables to calculate "the best interest of the child." For instance, take a 9-year-old black child who has never lived with a white family. An adoption agency could argue that it's not in the "best interest of the child" to be adopted by a white family -- even when a white family wants the child!<BR/><BR/>------------<BR/><BR/>As for whether or not abortion is a birth control method, famous economist Steven D. Levitt writes...<BR/><BR/>"In the first year after Roe V. Wade, some 750,000 women had abortions in the United States (representing one abortion for every 4 live births). By 1980 the number of abortions reached 1.6 million (one for every 2.25 live births), where it leveled off...<BR/><BR/>To be sure, the legalization of abortion in the United States had myriad consequences... Conceptions rose by nearly 30 percent, but births actually <I>fell</I> by 6 percent, indicating that many women were using abortion as a method of birth control, a crude and drastic sort of insurance policy."Saur♥Krauthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01160101729455178399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-1159536176316507492006-09-29T09:22:00.000-04:002006-09-29T09:22:00.000-04:00Actually - there are still many babies of American...Actually - there are still many babies of American birth available for adoption.<BR/><BR/>Problem - the demand is for WHITE healthy babies. Not dark ones - regardless of health. <BR/><BR/>So people adopt from Russia, Romaina, or whatever. Even China. But never Botswana. <BR/><BR/>And it is not so much abortion that has reduced the number of white healthy babies available for adoption in the USA. Family planning is the main cause. Contraception. The pill. Condoms. And so on. I really do not think that abortion is being used as a birth control method. At least not as a primary or even secondary method.The Lazy Iguanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12826083852416577162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-1159533460372964672006-09-29T08:37:00.000-04:002006-09-29T08:37:00.000-04:00Alex, I know of many problems from adoptions, actu...<B>Alex,</B> I know of many problems from adoptions, actually. Much of it stems from the fact that studies increasingly show that personality is <B>inherited</B> more than it's ever influenced. That means that a child may have very little in common with it's adoptive parents. However, that can easily be overcome or adapted to if the parents are trained and if there's dedication and love in the family.<BR/><BR/>As for gay marriage, it has nothing to do with the bollixed up adoption system we have in America. If these babies were freed up, there are plenty of straight couples that would snap them up. I doubt there would be any left! ;o) Perhaps you're referring to gay foster parents, because that's the real controversy that's brewing: should gay couples be allowed to be foster parents (there's a strong need for foster families).Saur♥Krauthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01160101729455178399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-1159532595413296692006-09-29T08:23:00.000-04:002006-09-29T08:23:00.000-04:00They need to be stable. It is so hip to adopt chi...They need to be stable. It is so hip to adopt children from other nations, but there are plenty right here that need help. I know a couple who adopted a girl, and boy did they luck out. I mean all little kids are great, but she is incredible. She is just brilliant. Anyway, the point is, nothing wrong with adopting. And nothing wrong with adopting from america. <BR/><BR/>This is why I support gay marriage as a good thing. The number of adopted kids they will be able to help is huge.High Power Rocketryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11537203640644706903noreply@blogger.com