tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post3971453667202684584..comments2023-11-02T06:56:57.999-04:00Comments on Saurly Yours: The Russian (and other countries') Adoption ProblemSaur♥Krauthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01160101729455178399noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-86668350508600296072011-08-18T00:10:57.188-04:002011-08-18T00:10:57.188-04:00I just checked adopt Us Kids website and did a sea...I just checked adopt Us Kids website and did a search for children between 1 and 3 years old, anywhere in the country and any race. It came up with 22 children...all of them had severe medical conditions. Kids like these are not for every family. Don't believe that there are plenty of kids to adopt from this country.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-34209469427064057062010-12-13T11:03:54.435-05:002010-12-13T11:03:54.435-05:00Saur, I disagree with you about not having enough ...Saur, I disagree with you about not having enough kids to adopt in the U.S. I just checked the Adopt Us Kids website, and they have more than 3,000 children who are looking for forever families. Adopt us Kids doesn't even list all the children who need forever families.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-4155125353822560312010-04-23T21:44:16.715-04:002010-04-23T21:44:16.715-04:00I have one adopted child, and she had some problem...I have one adopted child, and she had some problems, but we kept going, and she is now the grandmother of my three great grandchildren. I have friends with eight children, five of whom were adopted (Two from Vietnam)and in spite of natural problems the family is very close. (and one of their natural children recently adopted a baby from China.) There are no generalities that work perfectly.Three Score and Ten or morehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04323013128311124905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-87527840885949042822010-04-21T16:32:19.312-04:002010-04-21T16:32:19.312-04:00Kind of building on what Ed said, I was in the pos...Kind of building on what Ed said, I was in the position growing up where I never bonded with my biological father. Part of it was that he was Air Force and he left on a two year unaccompanied tour to Italy when I was about 18 months old. There's a lot of bonding in that time that can be hard to recover. There were other things. <br /><br />On the other hand, I have some friends at church that I think would take in the whole world if they could. They generally keep at least two foster kids and often more as the county needs it. They are just that kind of people. They have a lot of love to give.<br /><br />I hear a lot of people say "I really want a child," and it makes me cringe. And the more desperate efforts they make to get one, the more I cringe, because if you don't have the patience to navigate the system to get a child, you probably don't have the patience for a child. And if you have a single person looking to adopt or an unmarried couple, I cringe all the harder, because if you aren't willing to commit to another adult up front, then how can you commit to someone who is utterly helpless.<br /><br />Just so everyone knows: I am not slamming people who had children and then had a marriage break up. My parents divorced when I was ten, and my mom stuck it out with us through thin and thinner. She worked herself into an early grave trying to provide for us because parenting is a two person job and she was constantly behind. I learned a lot about commitment from her.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11769241624759010694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-41240363552556664872010-04-21T13:40:24.224-04:002010-04-21T13:40:24.224-04:00Ed, Very good contribution, thank you. I should no...<b>Ed,</b> Very good contribution, thank you. I should note here that I have a nephew who's adopted but I'm not close enough to that side of the family to know the inner workings and I have no idea how successful it is, but it SEEMS to be working out fine. Plus the boy was adopted shortly after the parents lost two babies AND he was adopted as a newborn. All factors to be considered.<br /><br />Yeah, there's no doubt that there are bio families w/ problems. I'm having a problem with my son right now, but I still love him dearly and would never consider sending him away if it were up to me (though I do believe in getting kids help when it's needed).Saurhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05747896202688088117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11687945.post-43491206633628507892010-04-21T12:54:54.383-04:002010-04-21T12:54:54.383-04:00I must say that as someone who has been adopted by...I must say that as someone who has been adopted by my stepfather at the age of 8, I think and love him as my father in every way and I am pretty certain the feeling is mutual. Most people don't even know that he is not my biological father. Of course the difference over what you wrote is that my biological mother was a constant in both equations. Still, I think bonding such as those filed under the biological kind can happen. I think it helps that I was young and had it been a few years later, perhaps things would have turned out differently.<br /><br />I've known several people who have adopted kids and sadly, problems do arise, especially with the older children. However, I would be willing to bet that there probably aren't many more problems in adoptive children than in families of biological children. For every adoptive family I know, I can probably think of ten biologically related families with major problems only they can't send their children back. <br /><br />Food for thought anyway.Edhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13214319366049620074noreply@blogger.com