The Foster Baby
Recently, I was asked to babysit children for a large Bible study group. I ended up in the baby department. That's when I realized that it had been 12 years since SaurKid had been that age, and I felt somewhat at a loss. What do you say to these little creatures? Er... what are you supposed to do with them again...? It's amazing how much you forget!One mom dropped off at least a couple of the babies. One of them began to pout up and cry as she left, so I picked him up and started talking to him and cooing at him, in an attempt to distract him.
"That's David," said someone helpfully. "He's a foster baby. This is his last week with her."
How sad. I began to wonder what was going to happen. Was his bio-mom going to take him back or was he going to another foster home? I also reflected on how this was the stuff that makes a good, healthy sociopath. Actually, no one knows for sure how a sociopath is made, possibly because there are varieties. Like various pastries: We end up with the same result but the ingredients differ.
However, one thing we know is that although some sociopaths may be born, some are definately made. Their pathology begins in their childhood. Sociopaths bond with either very few or no people. Part of the problem they have is this disconnection where they cease to identify with others. How easy it will be for little David to disconnect if this "pass-the-baby" continues. Since a child develops his personality within the first two years of life, these are the most delicate and important years that they will ever experience.
I never found out what David's fate is going to be. It terrifies and saddens me to think that he is very likely a victim of "pass-the-baby". Mom's on drugs? Oops! Let's take the baby away from her for a while. Mom's off drugs? OK, give the baby back to her. Oops! Mom's on drugs again! Give us the baby...Let's face it: Usually kids are taken away from their parents for a very good reason. And usually, that type of parent will continue to repeat those mistakes for as long as they live. In my humble opinion, once a child is taken away, the parent needs to lose the child unless it was an obvious "set-up" or the parent is not convicted for whatever they had supposedly done wrong.
Children are not simply a "thing" to be passed about from one person or foster family to another. There are plenty of people who would love to adopt a baby that is rendered unadoptable because the parents (who aren't fit to be parents themselves) refuse to relinquish their "right" to that child.
Abortion has reduced the adoption pool. Most of what is left are children that have serious problems because their mom would have aborted them if they had realized they were pregnant in time. That means babies with fetal alcohol syndrome, crack babies, or severe health or mental problems. What remains are the healthy babies with the unhealthy mothers. It is this small pool of babies that is so very desirable to people that are desperate to have a child of their own. And these babies will soon be screwed up too, due to the system that allows them to be used as pawns in the game of life.That's why foreign adoptions are growing at a rapid pace. In 1998, there were 15,774 children from other countries which were adopted by U.S. adoptive parents. I think it's admirable that we can help out such children. But I would love to see our own children be given the same advantages.












