The Foster Baby

One mom dropped off at least a couple of the babies. One of them began to pout up and cry as she left, so I picked him up and started talking to him and cooing at him, in an attempt to distract him.
"That's David," said someone helpfully. "He's a foster baby. This is his last week with her."
How sad. I began to wonder what was going to happen. Was his bio-mom going to take him back or was he going to another foster home? I also reflected on how this was the stuff that makes a good, healthy sociopath. Actually, no one knows for sure how a sociopath is made, possibly because there are varieties. Like various pastries: We end up with the same result but the ingredients differ.
However, one thing we know is that although some sociopaths may be born, some are definately made. Their pathology begins in their childhood. Sociopaths bond with either very few or no people. Part of the problem they have is this disconnection where they cease to identify with others. How easy it will be for little David to disconnect if this "pass-the-baby" continues. Since a child develops his personality within the first two years of life, these are the most delicate and important years that they will ever experience.

Let's face it: Usually kids are taken away from their parents for a very good reason. And usually, that type of parent will continue to repeat those mistakes for as long as they live. In my humble opinion, once a child is taken away, the parent needs to lose the child unless it was an obvious "set-up" or the parent is not convicted for whatever they had supposedly done wrong.
Children are not simply a "thing" to be passed about from one person or foster family to another. There are plenty of people who would love to adopt a baby that is rendered unadoptable because the parents (who aren't fit to be parents themselves) refuse to relinquish their "right" to that child.

That's why foreign adoptions are growing at a rapid pace. In 1998, there were 15,774 children from other countries which were adopted by U.S. adoptive parents. I think it's admirable that we can help out such children. But I would love to see our own children be given the same advantages.
