Owning my own businesses can be a blessing but there are times I feel too isolated. That's why I'm delighted to be part of a blogging community, and able to interract there.
Overall, I consider myself blessed. I don't have to hang out at cubicles, listening to Felicia's latest medical problems, or Sandra's latest boy problems, or how Cindi hates Pam. But there are times when a little kindly inane chatter would be welcome.
It's not that I'm not busy! But sitting at a computer all day can be very lonely after a while.
I'm considering several different options: join a gym, get involved in community outreach or political groups, join the choir at church. Most of the sports I do aren't sports that involved groups of people (such as volleyball or basketball).
Let me ask you: what groups do you belong to? What do you do to get away from it all, even if it's only for an hour or two?
Monday, March 06, 2006
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I thought Cindy and Pam made up...oh the drama...amd I'm outta the loop again.
I used to play softball, basketball and still occasionally play volleyball.
I'm getting old and frail now though...it's getting harder to keep up with the kiddies....lol
I have worked out of a home office for almost 16 years now. It does have its advantages but it can be lonely too. Over the years I have had very little camaraderie with my co workers who lived hundreds of miles away and certainly could not with any of my direct reports.
On the other hand? no office, no office politics to get caught in
Growing up as I did, being some thing of a gypsy and close to my brothers I never really had major circle of "friends". What I have been able to do though is cultivate a small group of friends of similar background that I socialize with outside of my family
Scrapbooking and photography! Those are individual things though. I enjoy blogging because it gives me a sense of community and keeps me connected. Other than that, I hang with my fam.
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For some of the same reasons, I'm thinking of joining our local La Leche League. But that's not exactly for everyone. On the complete other end of the spectrum, my husband and I are into RPGs--very fun once you get past the stereotypes.
Yes, we are a social species! Although I am a full-time student, it is safe to say that my education will be ongoing. And I am not speaking metaphorically, rather, that in some form or another I wish to be involved in formal education from this point forward. Whether that means taking a class or two at the local community college or the part time pursuit of a post-graduate degree, I will always be on this quest - on purpose.
Education for me used to be a means to an end, but now it is so much more. This is a kind of round-about way to answer your question saur, but one of the many blessings is learning about something I am interested in with like-minded people. We, by default, have at least one thing in common. The ancilary benefits, however, can only be realized by actually going someplace and meeting with others in this endeavor. In other words, face-to-face personal interaction cannot be replaced by cyberspace.
Does that help?
~Mike
We just finished our ballroom dancing class and hope to form a small group of folks who would like to meet maybe once a month somewhere, dress up, and have some old fashioned fun.
Start your own band..singing the music you like..
I talk to people on public transport and if that fails I shout in the street and see who responds.
I'm in Germany as I write this and I was just chatting with another pilot here about the camaderie of this job. Many of us have similar flying backgrounds so it's never difficult to find something to talk about.
When I lived in Atlanta, the ladies in my neighborhood used to get together once a month (called women's club). I went occasionally because it was nice to chat with other women. Unfortunately we didn't have much in common so it wasn't always fun unless some of my close friends were there. I think now that I am living in NH again it might be fun.
for four years i belonged to a fabulous church group called corpus chrisit fellowship (CCF)in newport beach, calif. i enjoyed the friendships, lectures, outreach, prayer, becoming a leader. now i'm also in the lonely boat contemplating the same question you are. good luck to both of us :)
i just may start a book club or a bunko group in my new neighborhood..we'll see.
Frankly, I enjoy my alone time, as I never get much of it. I'll surf the web, watch a movie, or call a friend if I get real bored. When the weather is nice, I get out in the yard and fiddle around with my flowers, or go shopping (which is more like looking than buying).
I found that blogging has taken up a lot of my time lately during the winter months... and it's convenient as the computer is right next to the phone... where I'm supposed to be anyway.
I interact more with my grandchildren who seem to need it ... I also walk a lot now, and volunteer at a local organization for abused children. Here lately I have been going on some poetry reading and it's been refreshing, since I am somewhat shy.
For awhile I hung out with other Girl Scout leaders - we got together on Tuesday nights at the local coffeehouse. But schedules changed and I don't do that anymore. So, actually, I don't have much of an outlet, either. I do work at the catalog call center, but there isn't that much time for conversation if we're busy with calls.
Pal,
I do my best to avoid people. I do go to the driving range quite often and have formed a bond with the old Dude who sells the snow cones.
Keep in mind that most groups only allow one know-it-all.
susie....I believe the rest of it is....
I drive an old Ford pickup truck
I do my drinking from a dixie cup
Yea, I'm a bonafide dancin' fool
I shoot a mighty mean game of pool
At any honky tonk roadside pub
I'm a member of a country club.....
I now have an awful earworm...I shall be singing this shit for days!
Well, i work with people in a restaurant, so that is my social time. I dont belong to anything other than that. Plus i take classes..thats a nice excursion twice a week. :)
I have the same problem Saur. I work from home and occasionally have to get out of the home office to do some work, but mostly I'm home.
I found that joining a gym helped me greatly, BUT----------I'm still "alone". No one can go with me during the day because my hours are much more flexable than any of my friends or even my partner for that matter.
My life begins at 5pm really. I used to work in a cubicle listening to the hen house chatter about every single person in the company; who's sleeping with who and who just got prego from the accounting department, but that all got tiresome.
The only group I saw in the paper was a knitting group. COME ON! I'm not downing people who knit. But Saur...can you imagine me sitting there? Knitting? Like Old Lady Perkins rockin' in her chair? Yikes!
I need a life. Come to NEW YORK and join me! Let's go out girl!
Fencing. YOu can start now and do it for the rest of your life. Your kids can do it too. They have some good clubs down in central Florida too.
When I first moved up to the frozen tundra of central Minnesota, I was very bored for the first year. To fill that time, I often through my camera and journal into the car and just took off driving at whim. Somedays I would barely get 20 miles and other days I would find myself a couple hundred miles away. Several times I even took along a tent to effectively extend my range. Eventually I ended up making my own circle of friends but I always missed those days of aimless wandering.
I'm a huge fan of joining gyms, and it's a great place to meet people. I know you've said "oww" to my yoga experiences before, but it's also a great way to connect with people - or maybe pilates? It's a very calming activity.
However, my best advice is just to go for something you wuold enjoy, because that's the most important. When you're happy, other people will rebound you with that and you'll make lasting connections.
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