I briefly signed up with Match.com but decided that I have way too much going on in my life to have to field emails from a bunch of different guys. It's difficult and draining.
And I've also re-affirmed that men are very visual creatures. Post a photo and if you're good looking, they don't care if you drool while you talk. ;o) Or course, I'm somewhat visual, too. We all are. But there's a difference between being attracted to someone or allowing it to make-or-break the deal. I was instantly bombarded when I posted a couple pictures, and I know it wasn't because of my sparkling wit!
Following is what I posted.
At this point, I've decided to remove my information. My dance card is full. Thank you so very much for your interest and I wish you the very best in your pursuit of The One.
As long as I have this platform, I'd like to say that I've heard repeatedly from many men that most of what they encounter are "gold diggers". To those men, I'd like to advise that you check to see what income bracket the woman has chosen for her date before you pursue her. Unless she's making the same income, she has no right to demand that of you. It's the mark of someone shallow and self-centered. Run while you can.
If for some reason you are going to turn someone down, be kind enough to at least write her and tell her why you're not interested or you changed your mind. She has the need to hear that. I've done it myself. It's not pleasant, but it's important.
Remember that "he who hesitates is lost". If you take too long to ask her out, she may get asked out by someone else. Of course she may be a serial dater (just out for the next meal) but she also may be looking for a relationship and you've just lost out.
Avoid talking about how "hot" she looks, or how you'd like to lick that outfit right off her. Unless she's a ho-bag, those comments are the kiss of death. Keep such comments to yourself until you've established a better chance of doing it.
If you're too choosy, you'll meet no one. Remember, you have baggage, too! Everyone does. She may be no Cinderella, but let's face it, guys - you're not Prince Charming, either.
I think this forum is the best one I've seen. I tried eharmony with terrible results. You're in the right place, and you have the opportunity to meet the woman of your dreams. I wish you the very best of luck.